We’ve probably all asked this questions; what to do on a first date ? How to react ? How to please the other person ? How to give good first impressions ? Are they going to think that I’m weirdo ? Well just stop for a moment, don’t panic and first of all, congratulations on landing the date! It can be pretty daunting at first but just remember this important point, there is a reason that a person has taken the decision of wanting the first date with you. He/She saw something special in you and wants to get to know you better. He/she saw something in you that was appealing. Now, just remember that you don’t have to pretend to be an other person because it’s exhausting and all you want is to enjoy your time so you just need to be yourself and enjoy yourself at the moment with them. The point is to be liked for who you are so don’t over think the process, just relax, be confident and have fun, and remember nobody is perfect !
So here is a few things to do on a first date:
1. First good impressions :
The first good impressions are lasting and important, don’t be generic and just simply take them to the movies and dinners as every other person has done, you don’t want to be like others. But don’t overdo it as well. Be punctual to the agreed-upon time. This does not only shows that you are responsible and a person of your word, but it will for sure show that you have a vested interest in that date and that you really value the other person’s time. Taking other people’s time into consideration makes them thinking that you’re serious about having a relationship with them.
2. Balancing respect and fun :
You like the person and you want to get to know them better ? It’s not complicated, be respectful and playful, As mentioned above, it’s important to make a good impression on the first date if you ever want to see a second one. However, this does not mean you have to treat it as a job interview, you’re not looking for a job ! Be yourself and read the room. Pay attention to his/her body language and get to know their interests too. And really care about what they have to say, it’s so important and makes the other person feel special. Listening to others is a big factor and it could differentiate you from. Be playful and spice up the night. Being respectful and funny is the key for every first date.
3. Don’t be like others :
Talk about something meaningful, forget the generic and the boring questions like “What do you do?” or “How was the weather today?” Your date will think it’s the same boring date she/he had lately, try to ask them some unique questions that will really get them to stop and think. Instead of asking questions like this one: “What would your dream life look like?” or “ who are you most grateful to in your life?” Ask them questions about subjects and things that they seem to know better, this will make them feel comfortable and then you’ll automatically find yourself talking with them about interesting subjects that you didn’t even think about it, remember to read the room and pay attention to the body language when asking questions, if you feel that the other person is uncomfortable with a question you can simply change the subject in a funny way. Before you try to do any asking, remember to always listen first.
In order to know how to succeed on a first date, take an interest in the other ! Your goal is to know each other well and not just to practice our rules to the letter and succeed in them. If your date is not the one to initiate at all, then you can for sure take the lead to talk about something about yourself first. This will show initiative and will allow them to see that you are willing to open up to them.
So we believe that now you know what to do on your first date. Go and be the best you that you can be, you just need to make sure to be yourself. We know you can do it !